For most human beings comparison is a natural thing we do, the brain uses the external world as a reference and compares itself in order to build a spectrum which can be used for decision making. However comparison can be either empowering or enslaving. Empowering comparison is when we use our reference of comparison to change or improve a certain factor within ourselves. For example seeing friends or family become healthier or more self invested may lead to the comparison that will ultimately make you invest in yourself too.
In retrospect, enslaving comparison is comparing and focusing on the things you cannot directly change for example comparing looks or status.
Enslaving comparison is a self-confidence killer. It robs you from the feelings of satisfaction and fulfillment, it makes you feel small, worthless and invisible.
We are living in a society and culture that has been teaching us nothing but to compare our lives to others. We are constantly looking into our phones wishing we had other lives, other clothes, other friends, and other personalities that we see daily on Social Media. We lose the connection to ourselves and our life, we become zombies who’s demands and wishes never reach a limit, yet we are never happy, we are never fulfilled.
Comparing yourself with other people is the direct path to your own dissatisfaction and sadness, there will always be someone in the world who is more successful and has more money, fame, clothes etc. Instead of wishing to become those people, and adopting their life - Give your best every single day. Start reconnecting to your own life, the life that YOU have control over. Exercise more, spend more time with family and friends, or even adopt a new hobby that will give you the feeling of satisfaction and worth.
Our life experience is based on what we focus on. Ask yourself these questions every morning:
- What am I happy about in my life now?
- What am I excited about in my life now?
- What am I proud about in my life now?
- What am I grateful about in my life now?
- What am I enjoying in my life right now?
- What am I committed to in my life right now?
- Who do I love? Who loves me?
Shift your focus and become self focused and oriented, learn to find the intoxication and blissfulness in spending time for your mind, body and soul. The key to maintaining this is truly feeling grateful and thankful towards your life, friends, family, and even problems that you face in your life.